Yoga instructor stands up to an entitled mom, telling her she can't bring her 8-year-old son to adult-only classes when he's repeatedly disruptive: 'I love kids, but my class isn't the place for one'

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  • AITA for telling a mother her son isn't welcome in my yoga studio's adult classes anymore?
  • My name is Rachael, 52 F, I own a small yoga studio in a college town in New Hampshire. We offer adult classes, prenatal, and a kids' class twice a week.
  • One of the rules that's been in place since I opened posted on the website and on the sign-in sheet is that adult classes are adults only.
  • Simple rule. It's a studio, not a gym, there's nowhere for a kid to go while a parent is on a mat.
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  • A few months ago a woman started coming to my 9am power flow with her son, who was maybe 8. First time I figured was a one-off. She brought
  • him with his iPad and set him up on a folded blanket against the back wall. I spoke to her after class, explained the policy,
  • offered her the schedule for our kids' class and a flyer from the community center's drop-in childcare down the street. She said her son
  • can't be left with strangers" and that she "really needed this hour." I told her I hear her but the class isn't a suitable space for him.
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  • She came back the next week. Same thing. iPad at full volume for three minutes before I had to go mute it. Then the class after that went sideways.
  • The boy was bored, fair, and started running laps at the back of the studio. Then he knocked over the rack of blocks. Then he was crying and slapping the window.
  • I stopped class and went over to the mom. She said "he just needs to move, please give him a minute." I said he can't stay in this class. She said "you can't do this he has needs."
  • Another student at the back said something sharp, I don't remember what, but it got ugly.
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  • I told her she needed to leave and that going forward the 9am wasn't open to her if her son needed to be with her. I also for the record offered
  • to comp her a month of our kids' class for him AND a pass to our prenatal (she'd mentioned she was trying again). She said that was "insulting" and left.
  • She's been posting in the town Facebook group about how our studio isn't "inclusive" and "doesn't support
  • families." Two of my regulars have said they're canceling over it. I love kids, I raised three. But my adult class isn't the place for one.
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  • No_Benefit_5360 NTA, you offered her two other classes and comped them. "inclusive" doesn't mean every class has to fit every kid. the two regulars canceling would've found something to be mad about eventually.
  • HyperBites NTA. Two regulars may have cancelled, but plenty more would have cancelled if their session was every time interrupted by mayhem.
  • Spiritual_Cry3316 NTA. You were MORE than fair to her! Sorry you lost a couple of customers over this. My guess is you'd have lost even more if you hadn't addressed the situation and banned her.
  • Roosteroot Pretty sure if you started saying kids were welcome in the back with their loud iPads of your adult classes, most of the other adults would cancel their memberships.
  • It would be one thing if she had approached you with her story ahead of time, asked if he could sit in the back, use headphones and if he didn't create any disturbance could she come? Maybe you could have worked something out.
  • But the fact that she just showed up and expected you to accommodate her was wild. And with the volume of the iPad clearly detracting from the purpose of the class.
  • I feel for her and not being able to leave her son with anyone, I really do. But there was a right way for her to handle this and a wrong way, and she chose the wrong way.

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